Tantra Massage Training — 4-Day Foundation Workshop
Learn the complete Tantra Massage ritual over four days, in a small group of singles and couples. You leave with a TAOS certificate, a printed step-by-step manual of the full routine, and the ability to give a complete Tantra Massage. Whether that’s for your own life and relationships or as the foundation for professional practice is up to you.
At a glance
- Format
- 4 days, residential or day venue, approx. 7 hours/day
- Who
- Women and men, singles and couples. No experience needed
- You receive
- TAOS certificate of attendance and completion of basic training · printed step-by-step manual of the complete routine and ritual
- Group
- Singles and couples. We aim for a balanced number of women and men. You choose your practice partners.
- Teacher
- Wesley Tan BOst BSc
What this training is
This is a hands-on training in the Tantra Massage ritual as it is practised and taught in Germany, where it has a long-established teaching tradition. Over four days you learn the full ritual from beginning to end: how to open and close it, how to structure the touch, and how to hold the space. You practise it fully, both giving and receiving.
It isn’t a weekend of theory or a taster. By the end you’ll have given and received the complete ritual, and you’ll have a manual to keep practising from.
What you’ll learn
- The complete structure of the Tantra Massage ritual, from opening to closing
- Full-body massage techniques and how to sequence them
- Yoni and lingam massage, taught as part of the complete ritual sequence, in a respectful and professional setting
- Breath, meditation and movement practices that support presence for giver and receiver
- How to ask for, give and withdraw consent, and how to communicate clearly before, during and after
- How to hold space: pace, attention, and staying present rather than performing
- How to receive: often the harder half, and just as much part of the training
How the four days run
Each day is built around guided demonstration followed by paired practice, with time for questions, reflection and group integration. The days build on each other. Early sessions lay the foundations of touch, breath and presence, and later sessions bring it together into the complete ritual.
Typical timings (residential format): arrival late afternoon on day one, two full days, and a final day finishing mid-afternoon. Exact times are on each event page.
How partnering works
We aim for a balanced number of women and men in every workshop. That balance gives the group a steady, even energy, and it means everyone has a partner to practise with.
Partnering isn’t assigned. Each person chooses who they practise with, session by session. For most of the ritual, such as the back, arms, face and full-body work, any pairing works: woman and man, woman and woman, man and man. If you come as a couple, you can stay together for the whole workshop or explore practising with other participants. Both are completely fine. Everything rests on consent and on your own boundaries.
Asking yourself the questions is part of the work: Do I only want to work with my partner? Who do I feel comfortable working with, and why? There’s no right or wrong answer. The asking brings presence. It shows you the filters and judgements you carry, often without knowing, and brings them into the light where you can look at them. That’s a large part of why these workshops change people.
Yoni and lingam massage in the training
Yoni and lingam massage are taught as part of the complete ritual. You learn the basics, the sequence, and what to pay attention to, and how to bring them into the whole massage with respect and awareness.
To teach both clearly within four days, these sections follow a set structure: women learn lingam massage and men learn yoni massage, practising in woman–man pairs. This lets both techniques be taught in a balanced, structured way within the group.
Interests vary, of course. A woman may want to learn yoni massage, or a man lingam massage. If that’s you, get in touch before booking, and we’ll talk through what’s possible within the workshop.
A clear structure means everyone knows what to expect before they arrive, and both techniques can be taught with the calm and care they need.
What you take home
- A TAOS certificate of attendance and completion of basic training in Tantra Massage
- A printed, step-by-step manual of the complete routine and ritual, so you can keep practising after the workshop
- The experience of having given and received the complete ritual, which no manual can replace
The certificate is issued by The Art of Sensuality. It confirms you have completed TAOS foundation training in Tantra Massage.
Who it’s for
- For yourself and your relationships. If you want to learn to touch and be touched with presence, for yourself, a partner or future partners.
- As a foundation for professional practice. If you’re a bodyworker, massage therapist or coach, or you’re thinking about offering Tantra Massage professionally, this is the first step.
- Singles and couples, women and men. Come alone or with a partner. Many people come alone.
You don’t need any previous experience. You do need openness, respect, and to be comfortable sitting and kneeling on the floor, since practice is floor-based. Minimum age 18.
After the foundation training
- 1
Foundation training (4 days)
Learn the complete ritual. Certificate and manual.
- 2
Return and deepen
Come back to future workshops at a reduced returner rate to keep refining your practice. Returner rates are available on request.
- 3
Professional mentoring
If you want to offer Tantra Massage professionally, ongoing one-to-one mentoring is available on request.
- 4
Advanced courses (coming)
Specific advanced trainings will open once enough people have completed the foundation. Join the interest list to hear first.
Your teacher
Wesley Tan BOst BSc trained in osteopathy and has spent most of his working life in bodywork and movement teaching. He trained in Tantra Massage with Spiritual Tantra in Berlin in 2019 and with the Yindo school, also of Berlin, in 2023. He has offered Tantra Massage, workshops and intimacy coaching ever since. He brings an understanding of the body from his osteopathy training together with a grounded, practical way of teaching. The focus stays on the work, not the teacher.
Prefer to learn privately as a couple?
Tantra Massage Training for Couples is the same complete ritual, taught privately to just the two of you over 15 hours, at your own pace.
Private training for couples →Tantra massage training FAQ
Do I need any experience?
No. The training starts from the beginning. You need openness, respect, and to be comfortable on the floor.
Can I come on my own?
Yes. Many people do. You choose who you practise with, session by session.
We’re a couple. Do we have to work with other people?
No. You can stay together for the whole workshop, or explore working with others. It’s your choice, every session, and either is completely fine.
Will I receive a certificate?
Yes. A TAOS certificate of attendance and completion of basic training in Tantra Massage, plus a printed step-by-step manual of the full routine and ritual.
Can I use this training to work professionally?
The foundation training gives you the complete ritual and a solid base. If you want to practise professionally, ongoing mentoring is available. You’ll also need your own insurance and to meet any requirements where you work. The TAOS certificate isn’t an external accreditation.
Is nudity part of the training?
During massage practice, yes, with loose coverings. Full nudity is optional. It’s always consensual and never sexualised.
Is this about sex?
No. The focus is presence, acceptance and conscious touch, not performance or sexual contact.
How are yoni and lingam massage taught?
As part of the complete ritual sequence, through demonstration and guided practice. In the 4-day format, women learn lingam massage and men learn yoni massage, practising in woman–man pairs for these sections.
Can I learn yoni massage as a woman, or lingam massage as a man?
The yoni and lingam sections are structured for woman–man pairs, so the group stays balanced and both techniques can be taught properly. If you have a different interest, get in touch before booking, and we’ll talk through what’s possible.
Can I pair with someone of the same sex?
Yes, for most of the ritual, such as the back, arms, face and full-body work. Only the yoni and lingam sections follow the woman–man structure.
Is the group balanced?
We aim for a balanced number of women and men in each workshop, for an even group energy and so everyone has a partner.
Can I come back after the foundation?
Yes. Returners can attend future workshops at a reduced rate. Returner rates are available on request.
Is there a minimum age?
Yes, 18.
How do I book?
Choose a date and submit the registration form on the event page. Registrations are reviewed within 48 hours. A £200 per person deposit secures your place once confirmed, payable by bank transfer within 7 days.
Don’t See a Date That Works for You?
Join our interest list to hear about future Tantra Massage Workshops and retreats as soon as they’re announced — often before they’re made public.
Limited spaces. Early registrants will receive priority notice before public release.
Looking for a one-to-one session instead? See Classic Tantra Massage sessions in Stroud.